‘Tis the Season

It happens every year, the fall weather turns cooler and it feels like it was just days ago that people were picking out their Halloween costumes. However, the trick-or-treaters are long gone and next comes the full blown holiday season: Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years. While many people count down the days and weeks leading up to these holidays, it’s important to keep in mind that this time of year isn’t always the easiest.

I know people who have been prepping their Thanksgiving meals for a week and others who have already had multiple Friendsgivings leading up to the holiday. While Thanksgiving is a time to reflect and give thanks, it’s also important to remember that this holiday isn’t easy for everyone. Just as Father’s and Mother’s Days are hard for those who have suffered a death from one, or both of their parents, Thanksgiving can be hard on those who don’t have a family or others who suffer from eating disorders.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I think you should absolutely be thankful and celebrate if you so choose, but I think it would also be great if you could think of others who have a difficult time with the holidays.

Me? I haven’t been a fan of Thanksgiving since I was 16. It brings back so many terrible memories and, when my mom died shortly after Thanksgiving five years ago, it made things even harder for me. So this past weekend, when I suddenly burst into tears for no apparent reason, I took a step back to recognize why I was suddenly so emotional and tried to be a little easier on myself.

The holidays can be stressful with family dynamics, tight budgets and the pressure to eat, drink and be merry, but I encourage you to recognize that not everyone is capable of this. If you’re one of the people who struggles with the holidays, know that you’re not alone. If you’re not, remember to take it easy on those that do.

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For many the thought of bright lights, tables overflowing with food and family come to mind.

For others thoughts of loneliness, desertion and heartache come to mind.

I’m a combination of both.

Three years ago, after celebrating Thanksgiving with my family, giving thanks for my mom’s health and time spent with family, my mom was hospitalized and died shortly after. Before my mom died I associated Thanksgiving with the death of my high school best friend. While others were excited for time away from school/work, food and time to see cousins who live far away my mind was on the people that I lost. Thanksgiving for me is one of the hardest times of the year. But it wasn’t always this way.

I grew up in a family where holidays were everything; we had decorations for every miniscule holiday and made food weeks in advance to the actual holiday. Growing up I loved holidays but now I find myself dreading them; I count the days until they’re over and life can go back to normal.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s a great time to reflect on all that you have and are thankful for this past year, but try to remember that some people are only able to think of the hurt that this time of year brings around.

This holiday season I challenge you to reach out to someone you haven’t talked to in a long time or someone you think may really be struggling this season. Tell them how much they mean to you and that they’re appreciated because, for many people, the holidays can be some of the loneliest times of the year.